For prospective adoptive parents, the term \u201copen adoption\u201d may sound intimidating or confusing. What does an open adoption look like? How does it work? Is it really in the best interest of the child? To make open adoption more understood, we\u2019ve compiled this list of Myths and Facts to help guide you through your adoption journey!<\/p>\n\n\n\n
FACT: Today, the vast majority of adoptions are open. In a study conducted by the \u57c3\u6587 \u00b7 \u5510\u7d0d\u68ee\u6536\u990a\u7814\u7a76\u6240<\/a>, \uff0c\u55ba\u4e00\u9805\u8abf\u67e5\u4e2d\uff0c\u53ea\u67095 % \u5605\u53d7\u8a2a\u8005\u8868\u793a\u4f62\u54cb\u6709\u5c01\u9589\u5f0f\u6536\u990a\u3002\u7576\u7136\uff0c\u6536\u990a\u5605\u958b\u653e\u985e\u578b\u56e0\u5bb6\u5ead\u800c\u7570\uff0c\u53ef\u4ee5\u4fc2\u7f55\u898b\u5605\uff0c\u4ea6\u53ef\u4ee5\u4fc2\u6301\u7e8c\u5605\uff0c\u4ea6\u53ef\u4ee5\u4fc2\u4fe1\u4ef6\u3001\u96fb\u8a71\u3001\u89aa\u8eab\u6703\u9762\u5605\u5f62\u5f0f \u2014\u2014 \u540c\u57cb\u4ecb\u4e4e\u5169\u8005\u4e4b\u9593\u5605\u597d\u591a\u3002.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: The relationships between adoptive parents, birth parents, and adoptees changes over time, and tend to ebb and flow. As long as all parties remain committed to communication and are flexible, the relationships formed are life-long and rewarding.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: In open adoption, the adoptive parents are the sole custodians and are the ones in control of their child\u2019s welfare. The birth parents may play an active role in the child\u2019s life, but the legal rights remain in the hands of the adoptive parents.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: Children are not confused by having contact with their birth family. Even at an early age, children can understand different roles and responsibilities. Further, while all members in an open adoption are shown to benefit from the relationship, it is adoptees that benefit the most over time. Some of the benefits to adoptees include coming to terms early on with the reasons for their adoption, access to information that aids in identity formation, knowledge about their own medical histories, and a better understanding of the meaning of adoption.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: Surveys show that families who choose to remain in contact with the birth family report higher levels of satisfaction with their adoptions. According to the \u660e\u5c3c\u8607\u9054\u5dde\/\u5fb7\u5dde\u9818\u990a\u7814\u7a76\u8a08\u5283<\/a>, \uff0c\u958b\u653e\u5f0f\u6536\u990a\u5605\u990a\u7236\u6bcd\u5831\u544a\u8a71\uff0c\u4f62\u54cb\u540c\u5b50\u5973\u5605\u95dc\u4fc2\u6709\u66f4\u5f37\u5605\u6c38\u4e45\u611f\uff0c\u6b63\u5982\u9810\u671f\u5605\u672a\u4f86\uff0c\u540c\u57cb\u5c0d\u751f\u7236\u6bcd\u540c\u5b50\u5973\u5605\u540c\u7406\u5fc3\u6bd4\u5c01\u9589\u5f0f\u6536\u990a\u5605\u990a\u7236\u6bcd\u591a\u3002.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: Birth parents in open adoptions with ongoing contact report less grief, regret, and worry, as well as more peace of mind, than those who do not have contact, according to the \u57c3\u6587 \u00b7 \u5510\u7d0d\u68ee\u6536\u990a\u7814\u7a76\u6240<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n FACT: Through open communication, both parties should have a mutual understanding where those boundaries are. The way the open adoption looks is determined before placement, between the adoptive parents and birth parents (and the adoptee depending on his\/her age), and is based on what is comfortable and practical for all involved. Birth parents and adoptive parents should both receive proper training and counseling on open adoption before making an open adoption agreement, to ensure that all parties have thought clearly and reflexively about what they want the relationship to look like. It is also important to work with a counselor or social worker to help craft the open adoption contract or agreement, and to have access to post-adoption services to work through any challenges or issues that may arise over time in that relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Spence-Chapin encourages open adoption, which is why we are happy to answer any further questions you may have. Spence-Chapin offers <\/em>individual and family counseling<\/em><\/a>, open adoption support and guidance, and facilitates reunion meetings. Call us and let us know how we can support you and your family \u2013 646-539-2167. We encourage to read this beautiful personal <\/em>open adoption story<\/em><\/a>.<\/em><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" For prospective adoptive parents, the term \u201copen adoption\u201d may sound intimidating or confusing. What does an open adoption look like? How does it work? Is it really in the best interest of the child? 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3. Myth: Open adoption is a form of co-parenting.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
4. Myth: Open adoption is confusing to children.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
5. Myth: Having contact with the birth family will be an intrusion on my family.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
6. Myth: Being able to communicate with and see the child will be too painful for the birth parents.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
7. Myth: There will be no boundaries. The birth parents will drop in whenever they want to see the child.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n