{"id":7182,"date":"2015-10-07T03:00:20","date_gmt":"2015-10-06T15:00:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/spence-chapin.org\/blog-international_adoption-can-we-do-this\/"},"modified":"2019-12-17T09:06:33","modified_gmt":"2019-12-16T21:06:33","slug":"can-we-do-this","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/spence-chapin.org\/yue\/can-we-do-this\/","title":{"rendered":"Can we do this?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>How this question all parents face relates to parenting an older child<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Inevitably there is a \u201ccan we do this?\u201d moment for parents\u2014all parents. It can occur before a child arrives. It can occur when that child is growing. It can occur if that child is a biological child. It can occur if that child is an adopted child. It can occur during easy, happy times. It can occur when there are storms to be weathered. It can occur once. Or it can occur every day. Inevitably\u2014it will occur.<\/p>\n<p>Questions we often hear prospective parents ask include:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Can we do this? Can we adopt? Can we raise a child who may not look like us?<\/li>\n<li>Can we raise an older child? What about a child who was born in another country?<\/li>\n<li>What if they have experienced trauma? Will that child be able to understand that we love him or her?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>Will we be <em>able <\/em>to weather those storms?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>We know that there are certain traumas that can accompany life in the child welfare system, either domestically or internationally. Sometimes the separation from biological family is itself the traumatic event and sometimes that trauma is only realized later. The knowledge of this as a possibility for their child can cause worry for parents. It can cause parents considering international or older child adoption to ask the same question other parents ask themselves every day: \u201cCan we do this?\u201d<\/p>\n<p>At Spence-Chapin we provide families with the resources needed to make an informed decision and one that is right for each family. We support families in arriving at their answer to that inevitable question and provide continued support as that question is bound to come up again\u2014and that\u2019s okay.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Some helpful essential reads on older child adoption can be found here:<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><em>Our Own: Adopting and Parenting the Older Child<\/em> by Trish Maskew<\/li>\n<li><em>Parenting the Hurt Child: Helping Adoptive Families Heal and Grow<\/em> by Gregory Keck<\/li>\n<li><em>Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Through the Teen Years<\/em> by Patty Cogen<\/li>\n<li><em>The Primal Wound: Understanding the Adopted Child<\/em> by Nancy Newton Verrier<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>For more information about our domestic, international and older child adoption programs, please contact the Adoption Team at<strong> 212-400-8150<\/strong> \u6216\u8005 <strong><a href=\"mailto:info@spence-chapin.org\">info@spence-chapin.org<\/a><\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>To schedule a pre-adoption consultation or if you would like more information about our Adoption Support &amp; Counseling Services, please contact Spence Chapin\u2019s Modern Family Center at <strong>646-539-2167<\/strong> \u6216\u8005 <strong><a href=\"mailto:info@spence-chapin.org\">info@modernfamilycenter.org<\/a>.<\/strong><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>How this question all parents face relates to parenting an older child Inevitably there is a \u201ccan we do this?\u201d moment for parents\u2014all parents. 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