Marc & JD

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Hello! Our origin story begins online in NYC at the end of 2012. After a long period of dating, we got engaged in 2019 when JD asked Marc to marry him (on JD’s birthday)

This led to a wedding at the height of the pandemic in 2020. Throughout our nearly 15-year relationship, we’ve largely built a life centered around curiosity, connection, and culture. We are each family-oriented with several childhood friendships still playing a significant role in our lives – and the idea of becoming parents has percolated quietly in the back of our minds since our earliest conversations.

As married gay men, our path to parenthood requires significant planning and intention. After exploring all options; adoption felt like the best decision and it wasn’t a difficult choice. We want our child to understand their journey and how we came into their life, who grows up in a home where loving others as family does not require shared DNA, and who we can empower to be the best version of themselves every day.

We have so much to offer – unconditional love & support, stability, creativity, a loving extended family, and a heartfelt eagerness to parent. We are honored to have your consideration.


About Marc

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Job: Marc is the Head of Insurance Services at HODINKEE and is an art/collectibles appraiser on the side

Fun Fact: Marc is in the process of his second training program to learn hand building and wheel based pottery skills 

Hobbies: Collecting art, going to new museum exhibits and installations, volunteering for arts organizations, pottery


About JD

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JJob: JD is a Vice President within Integrated Firm Management at Morgan Stanley

Fun Fact: JD wasn’t able to do a ‘study abroad’ in the traditional sense while in college, but instead went on a solo backpacking trip – visiting 17 cities in 10 weeks in 2010 (blogging about it in realtime)

Hobbies: Tech, running, traveling to new places and trying new food, video games


Nuestras vidas

Weekdays have rhythm, grounded in a work routine followed by dinner at home and evenings spent reading/relaxing, watching a movie, or meeting up with friends.

Weekends are intentionally less structured but usually begin with JD taking our dog Dakota to Central Park in the early mornings when off-leash is allowed, with Marc playing taxi and parking & getting coffees in the meantime. Working out, running errands, or connecting with friends are typical activities after getting home, before shifting gears to an evening plan – which is sometimes just staying in and ordering takeout.

Summer weekends our default is being down at the Jersey Shore at Marc’s family home, where swimming & relaxing by the pool, grilling, and playing games with family & friends define the season. Our favorite daytime game is cornhole and after dinner it’s the card game Hearts.


Nuestra Familia

Our family so far is just us and Dakota, our original fur child who was adopted as a puppy in 2015. Dakota is a wonderfully sweet and well behaved Norwegian Elkhound/Keeshond mix who is great around children. We get compliments on her all of the time and like to think some of it stems from how we’ve raised & taken care of her.

JD’s parents still live in the house he was raised in (in the suburbs of Philadelphia) with both of his siblings living nearby his parents. Similarly, Marc’s parents are still in the house he grew up in in the NYC suburbs (Northern Jersey) with his siblings both living nearby as well.

JD’s sister has two boys (3.5 years old and 6 months old as of June 2026) and we have several friends with kids who we intend to create new family traditions with along the way.


Reflexiones finales

We know this process is probably layered with mixed feelings, and want you to know that we appreciate you even considering us for your child’s future parents. We’re extremely excited to welcome a child and expand our family when it’s meant to be. 

– JD & Marc

Para obtener más información, comuníquese con nuestro Equipo de Adopción en 212-400-8150 o envíanos un correo electrónico a [email protected].

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Elizabeth L. Smith

Facilitador de mentoría

Elizabeth L. Smith, LMSW (she/her) is a compassionate, trauma-informed, and adoption-competent therapist. In her Adoptee Support Sessions, she provides non-clinical support services to adopted people. Her clinical training, narrative work, and living experience as an adopted person inform her perspective and practice. Elizabeth possesses deep awareness, empathy, and understanding of the shifting complexities of adoption, reunion, search, and the importance of being together in community.

Perfiles de niños en espera

¡Gracias por su interés en adoptar a través de Spence-Chapin! Podemos compartir los perfiles de los niños que se consideran los más necesitados y que están esperando a nivel internacional ser asignados a una familia adoptiva. Los niños que aparecen en esta página han estado esperando más tiempo para encontrar familias y están formados por niños mayores, que forman parte de un grupo de hermanos o niños con una condición médica diagnosticada. Para respetar la privacidad de estos niños, esta página ha sido protegida con contraseña.

Spence-Chapin se toma muy en serio los derechos de privacidad de los niños que buscamos colocar y comparte el perfil con usted bajo las siguientes condiciones:

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3. La obligación de confidencialidad continuará indefinidamente, incluso en todo momento después de mi asociación con Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children.

4. No se le permite publicar, copiar, distribuir o vender ninguna de estas imágenes a terceros de ninguna forma.

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6. Usted hace esto de forma libre, voluntaria y con pleno conocimiento de lo que acepta al ingresar/acceder a este blog.

7. ¡Gracias por su interés en brindar un hogar amoroso para un niño que espera! Esperamos conectarnos con usted pronto para continuar analizando las vías de adopción en Spence-Chapin. Esperamos que le gustemos en Facebook, nos siga en Twitter y se mantenga al día con nuestras familias a través de nuestro blog de adopción.

Un cordial saludo,
El equipo de adopción de Spence-Chapin

Teléfono: 212-400-8150
Correo electrónico: [email protected]

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