Choosing Adoption for Your Baby – Step-by-Step Process

Choosing adoption for your baby is an emotionally difficult decision, and one you do not have to make alone. You may have heard people refer to adoption as “giving your baby up” or “putting your baby up for adoption,” as if it were a simple thing you decide to do. We know it’s not. Adoption is a choice that you can make for yourself and your baby after weighing all of your options and deciding what is best for you.( It or the Process) should be at your pace and focused on your wishes for you baby. . Our counselors will be there every step of the way to provide guidance, information, and support. Should you want to explore an adoption plan for your baby, below is a step-by-step guide on how to get started.

Gather Information & Reach Out

If you are reading this, you’ve already taken an important step. The more you understand your options, the more confident you will feel about deciding what is best for you and your baby. Call us. Your call does not mean that you’ve already decided on adoption—it’s just about getting information. It helps to talk to someone who cares and who can give you accurate information on what the process entails. You can contact us by phone, text, through live chat, email, or by completing this contact form.

Meet your Options Counselor

We offer a safe space to consider your options by providing free, confidential, and non-judgmental supportive counseling. You can speak with us however you feel most comfortable—phone, email, text, in person, or via virtual video counseling. We have several office locations, but we will also visit you anywhere in the New York City metro area (the five boroughs, Long Island, the Hudson Valley, and Westchester) and New Jersey! Our counseling and support services are available 24/7 and in multiple languages.

Choose & Meet an Adoptive Family

If you decide that adoption is the right option for you and your baby, you will have the option of reviewing the profiles of families who are waiting to adopt with your social worker. These profiles will provide you with photos and personal information about each potential adoptive family—who they are, what their family is like, why they are adopting, and what they value in life. You will have plenty of time to select the family that you feel is best for your baby. If you decide to meet them, your social worker will be there to support you during the meeting with the family.

Create a Hospital Plan

Depending on which option you choose and how far along you are in your pregnancy, it may be important to create a plan for when you are in the hospital. Your counselor will work with you to create the plan you want, so you can have support when making decisions for yourself and your child during your hospital stay. Our counselors will work with the hospital social worker to ensure your plans are known your wishes will be supported.

Utilize Interim Care

Parenting a newborn can be overwhelming while you are trying to make a plan for the future. You may need additional time to think about your options and choices. Our Interim Care Program will allow you to continue to fully explore all options while your baby is cared for by a nurturing caregiver in a loving home. Our services are free for you while you take the time a decision.

Support After Adoption

Additional counseling is available to you after you have made an adoption plan.  If you choose to, you can receive FREE supportive counseling sessions which you can schedule at any time. 

*Our use of terms “put up” and “give up” does not reflect how we feel about adoptive placements. These terms are most widely used search terms for those considering adoption for their baby, and we wish for this page to reach those who seek information about making an adoption plan.

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Elizabeth L. Smith

Mentorship Facilitator

Elizabeth L. Smith, LMSW (she/her) is a compassionate, trauma-informed, and adoption-competent therapist. In her Adoptee Support Sessions, she provides non-clinical support services to adopted people. Her clinical training, narrative work, and living experience as an adopted person inform her perspective and practice. Elizabeth possesses deep awareness, empathy, and understanding of the shifting complexities of adoption, reunion, search, and the importance of being together in community.

Waiting Children Profiles

Thank you for your interest in adopting through Spence-Chapin! We are able to share the profiles of children who are considered to be the most in need and are waiting internationally to be matched with an adoptive family. The children featured on this page have been waiting for the longest to find families and consist of children who are older, part of a sibling group, or children with a diagnosed medical condition. In order to respect the privacy of these children, this page has been password protected.

Spence-Chapin takes the privacy rights of the children that we are seeking to place very seriously, and share the profile with you under the following conditions:

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That you acknowledge and understand that

1. Misuse of the content, and/or linking to any sites that reflect practices that involve the sale, abduction, exploitation, or trafficking of children is strictly prohibited.

2. You have been given limited access to confidential information in the form of images that you will not disclose to any person or in any manner that is inconsistent with applicable policies and procedures of Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children.

3. The confidentiality obligation shall continue indefinitely, including at all times after my association with Spence-Chapin Services to Families and Children.

4. You are not permitted to release, copy, distribute, or sell any of these images to third parties in any form.

5. Impermissible disclosure of the images may result in legal actions being taken against you, by or on behalf of that person.

6. You are doing this freely, voluntarily and with a full understanding of what you are agreeing to by entering/accessing this blog.

7. Thank you for your interest in providing a loving home for a waiting child! We look forward to connecting with you soon to continue discussing adoption paths at Spence-Chapin. We hope that you like us on Facebook, follow us on twitter, and keep up with our families through our adoption blog!

Warm regards,
The Adoption Team at Spence-Chapin

Phone: 212-400-8150
Email: [email protected]

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