Whether you’re a birth parent, adoptee or adoptive parent, the need for support doesn’t end after placement. Spence-Chapin offers lifelong support and guidance at every phase of your adoption journey. We offer in-person or phone sessions on a variety of issues in an accepting, nonjudgmental environment.


Our clients often wonder whether they need coaching or counseling support. Coaching is short-term, solution focused support that focuses on a specific issue. Because there is no diagnosis or therapeutic intervention involved, it is not in-depth psychotherapy and therefore is not insurance reimbursable.

Coaching sessions can take place by phone, video or in person.


Are you thinking about, have been contacted by or started a search for your birth family? This can be an emotional and thought-provoking time. Our experienced coaches can provide support and guidance as you process the different emotions. A coaching session with one of our experts can provide you with a safe space to talk about your concerns.

For Adoptees
  • Explore needs and experiences outside of other’s expectations
  • Navigate relationships and contact
  • Learn to set and manage expectations
For Birth Families
  • Review placement
  • Consider how search will impact other family members
  • Explore/expand identity as a birth parent
For Adoptive Parents
  • Review adoption information/story to uncover feelings
  • Identify your own issues and how that impacts the child’s search experience
  • Provide guidance and practical steps for reconnection


As children get older, they begin to understand differences across the board – race, different family make-up, adoption – so there are more questions. Not only do they begin to understand more, they also get questions from other children. Parents also become more aware of differences and benefit from being reminded of all the things they learned during the home study that are now beginning to play out.

  • Get tips for school issues/play dates
  • Anticipate issues related to race if you’re a transracial family
  • Get support to share more difficult information
  • Is it adoption or teenager issues?
Talking About Adoption At Different Ages

Listen to this podcast of Mark Lacava, LCSW-R, Executive Vice President of Spence-Chapin’s Pre & Post Adoption Services Department discuss common questions children ask at different developmental stages and how to answer them.


Preparing to travel? We’re here for you! A birthland trip is a trip made to an adoptee’s country of birth and can be made at any time in an adoptee’s life. These trips serve as a way to connect an adoptee to his/her birth culture, and in so doing, engage more deeply with a part of his/her identity and past. Spence-Chapin provides emotional support for individuals and families preparing for a birthland trip. Contact our team at 646-539-2167 to schedule a coaching session today.

Birthland Trip Resources 

View our list of birthland tours offered by other agencies and organizations.

Please note: Spence-Chapin does not endorse or recommend any birthland tours not affiliated with Spence-Chapin. For more information about the birthland tours listed, please contact that agency or organization.


Communication is an integral part of navigating openness in relationships between birth parents, adoptive parents and children. Do you need support managing the openness as your child asks more questions about their adoption? Do you need ideas to increase communication or set boundaries? Our experienced coaches can help you best navigate the openness in all the relationships throughout your family’s different development stages.

  • Manage loss and separation issues at different stages after placement
  • Understand how to talk about placement with family, friends and strangers
  • Navigate relationships with birth family, adoptive parents and child at different ages
  • Get support for birthland trips / international search

Your Coach will offer practical tips and resources so you can make immediate changes. Each coach brings decades of experience working with adoptive families and helping kids & their parents succeed.

Coaching is offered to clients living in all 50 states 

Coaching is not considered a therapeutic service and therefore is not insurance reimbursable. Together we’ll create an individualized plan to help you and your family.

One 60-minute phone session: $150

Call Us Today To Learn How We Can Help You!