Who are the Mentees?
Mentees are adopted middle or high school students in the tri-state who are open to receiving support and guidance from adopted adults and are able to be in a group setting and participate in structured activities. Our families join us from NYC, New Jersey, and Connecticut!
Who are the Mentors?
Our mentors are volunteers who are adopted, live in the tri-state area, and are in their twenties, thirties, and forties. All of our mentors are screened and trained by our licensed social work staff. Mentors serve as role models who can share their adoption story and experiences while encouraging mentees to ask questions, feel comfortable with their identities, and develop healthy self-esteem. Some of our mentors were mentees themselves as children.
Why would my child be interested in a Mentorship Program?
For many young adoptees, finding older adoptee role models can be challenging. While they may be surrounded by peers who were also adopted, interacting with an older adoptee might not be possible. Mentors can really provide insight and support for younger adoptees around issues of identity, navigating different types of conversations that might come up in high school or college, or just being a teenager in general. They are able to speak and listen to mentees from a place of understanding.
Are there any events for parents of mentees?
Yes! We are facilitating four virtual events for adoptive parents of teens/tweens during the Fall 2020 semester. Even if your tween/teen does not wish to enroll in mentorship, you as the parent can still participate. To register for an upcoming Parenting Adopted Teens event please visit www.spence-chapin.org-events-calendar. The Parenting Adopted Teens events will be held virtually on September 17, 2020; October 15, 2020; November 19, 2020 and January 14, 2021.
Are mentors assigned to a child one-to-one? Do they meet individually?
Mentors and Mentees interact at scheduled events and go on community outings as a group. Whereas in some years we designate Mentors to individual Mentees, we have also interacted in group settings without a one-on-one assignment. The program structure varies each year depending on enrollment.
What if my child doesn’t want to participate?
It’s OK for Mentees to feel a bit hesitant about participating at first. Many of our mentees who are unsure about joining the program at first end up really enjoying the experience after just a few outings. However, the children who are most successful in the program are enthusiastic and want to participate. They are ready to engage in these adoption conversations. We make sure that conversations take place in a number of ways so that each Mentee can feel comfortable.
How often does the Mentorship Program meet?
Once a month, our Mentors and Mentees enjoy community, educational, and social events. We provide an inclusive and safe space to discuss birth families, identity, relationships, and more. There are two semesters for the Mentorship Program: Fall (September – January) and Spring (February – June). Families enrolled in the Mentorship Program will receive a schedule of events in advance of the semester.
What types of programs/activities do participants of the Mentorship Program engage in?
Due to COVID-19, the events for the Fall 2020 semester will all be held virtually. However, past outings have included trips to the zoo, bowling, classes on pasta making, fencing, painting, and more. Some events take place at Spence-Chapin’s office in Manhattan while others take place off-site throughout New York City. Two of each semester’s monthly meetings will be Adoption Days, where the agenda will be adoption-focused and encourage relevant discussion and reflection. Adoption Days also include programming for parents related to parenting adopted teens.
What does the program fee cover?
The fee covers the cost of administering the program including lunches, admission or cost of the activity. Volunteer mentors do not pay a fee.
What is the time commitment for Mentors?
Mentors volunteer monthly from September to May for 4 hours each activity. An orientation event is also required during a weekend or evening prior to the start of the program (2-3 hours).
Hear from our current mentors to learn more:
Email firstname.lastname@example.org or call 646-539-2167 to learn more!